We are not alone! Sometimes those are just words – reminders from friends or expressions on a card of sympathy. But sometimes the very strong feeling of being alone in our grief is softened by the presence of another caring person.
In the moments after our family said good-bye to my son, Chuck, everyone dispersed. I stayed at the hospital to support his wife and eldest daughter who were allowed to be with him until he died after they removed his ventilator. Other family members gathered in groups of two or three. My daughter took Chuck’s 16 year old daughter to her house where they ate and watched Carra’s comfort movie, Cars.....in silence. After the movie they sat for another hour…..in silence.
We don’t always need words.
In a time where hugs and gatherings to remember and offer support are difficult, and even rare, it is vitally important to find ways to reach out. For those of us who are grieving, today’s world may necessitate that we initiate a call, text or meeting when we are feeling the weight of bearing the loss alone. Not easy to do.
If you are in the role of a friend who cares, don’t hesitate to let that person know you are still thinking or praying for them. If you wait a few seconds, they may talk if they need to. If they don’t wish to share, you have still given the message that you are ready to listen and you haven’t forgotten. That can be powerfully comforting.
Priscilla Leavitt, PhD, LPC
Psychologist
Dr. Leavitt is certified in marriage & family therapy, grief & bereavement, hypnosis, stress & Christian counseling. A popular speaker & Executive Coach, she uses her expertise for healing clients & teaching professionals.
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